The Messenger of Allah said: ‘Whoever among you can afford to get married, let him do so, and whoever cannot afford it should fast, for it will be a restraint (Wija) for him.” Marriage in Islam is intended to fulfill multiple purposes which include spiritual tranquility, peace, cooperation and partnership in fulfilling Allah’s Commands. Marriage gives responsibilities to both partners equally. Such responsibilities cultivate humans ability to develop, grow, lead, and become more affectionate. Not to mention that fulfilling one’s physical needs in a decent manner is one of the main purposes of marriage. Reproduction is the natural outcome of marriage. Allah Al-Mighty urges believers to establish a strong and faithful youth who can lead the Islamic nation to prosperity. Consequently, man should be careful while choosing his wife, and highly consider that his wife is the factory of Ummah’s leaders development.
Our religion emphasizes the concept that physical appearance or material wealth are not important compared to righteousness, good character, and piety. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) advised believers to get the one who is religious and prosper. The religious woman is a great support to the man in his life, choices, work life, and kids. She is his first line of defense, the peace that he seeks to is created by his wife. A lady who establishes the five prayers, covers her body decently and head is a type of wife who is capable of protecting herself from any external temptations. A righteous wife will obey Allah in obeying her husband. She will understand that Allah’s Pleasure is connected to her husband’s Pleasure. Men should find such a lady who can make peace in his home and life, his home will be guarded by their prayers, Quran recitation, and Duas. Besides, a good wife will do her best to raise good kids too, whether on the level of religion, education, and health care.
Abu Ad-Dardh narrated that the Messenger of Allah said: “Nothing is placed on the Scale that is heavier than good character. Indeed the person with good character will have attained the rank of the person of fasting and prayer.” We must differ between the person’s worshiping level to Allah, and the good character and behavior. Not every lady who is wearing Hijab is a woman of high quality. Thus, for the man, in the process of choosing your wife, you must have enough interaction with your future wife. For a more specified example, observe the way she deals with her parents, and siblings. Character is of extreme importance in Islam, her kindness, compassion, respect, and modesty.
Men, too, have all the right to choose a woman they like. It is very significant that you choose a woman you admire, and love to be around. A woman who you will be content with. Through couple of meetings, you both can build a strong attraction to each other. All the above mentioned criteria will lead to a successful marriage and a happy life. You need not to forget to make dua as much as you can, remember this beautiful dua that Allah mentions in His Holy Quran and repeat,
رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا
May our Lord bless us with spouses and children who bring joy to our eyes and make us a model for the righteous.
